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Demystifying the five most secret behaviors of children
Expression one, perseverance
In real life, most parents face such a problem: the cute and obedient baby gradually becomes obstinate and not very obedient; sometimes you make him east, he is west, with a kind of intentionality.
Based on this, parents have adopted methods such as beating, punishing, coaxing, and material seduction, but the effect is only reflected in one moment, and side effects have appeared to a certain extent. So what kind of code of conduct and communication method can we use to deal with such problems? This requires the following:
We know that consciousness is determined by matter, and human consciousness is the reflection of the human brain on the specific material living environment. From child to infant, the brain begins to have a large movement process. In other words, the child starts to use the independence and creativity of his own thinking to look at the world. This is what is often called childlike innocence. Adults think that children are stubborn. On the contrary, in the eyes of children, parents may be stubborn. This is a question of understanding, communication, and guidance. Parents and children need to get along with each other on an equal footing, in a way that children can accept, and make them right and wrong.
For example, letting a 4-year-old child write very beautifully. He must be worried about not writing well, because he does not have this ability, so he will refuse, and then be scolded or even punished by his parents. His perseverance showed resistance. Through this example, it should be understood that the child's enthusiasm and disobedience are only a superficial phenomenon. Behind it are hidden fear, shyness, lack of self-confidence, fear of frustration, and so on. Therefore, when your child is unruly, you should recognize the reason, pay attention to communication, and guide correctly. To restrain one's emotions, you ca n’t just anger and punish the child, not to mention scolding the child, because this impatient and authoritarian approach will only make the child more resentful. Adult restraint and suppression will make the child feel embarrassed and threatened. They will be more persistent. Studies in social psychology have shown that when adults and children interact in a democratic way and can exchange opinions, it is very beneficial to the cultivation of children's independence. In the atmosphere of restraint, it is difficult to cultivate creative talents. .
Expression two, lose temper
We often see this scene in front of the toy counter in the store: when the child asks his parents to buy a certain toy, the parent will not get angry, and the child will get angry and make a lot of noise.